How to build confidence doing what you love

Confidence. It’s one of those emotions that can seem quite ephemeral. You may be like some people who experience it randomly. One moment you have it, the next it’s gone and you aren’t even sure what brought it on or why it went away. Or you may be like others who gain it by reaching excellence in one area and then change the game and only to find yourself at the bottom of the ride again.

Of course there is a combination of the two above. I think that’s what I have been personally experiencing over the last few years. So I can tell you that it’s not the easiest way to grow a business and start a family. You might be thinking that having both of those happen at the same time might make it impossible to stay strong and confident 90% of the time. It certainly has it’s challenges; however, in the last few months I have had a new realization.

Confidence in doing what you love is a direct result of self-awareness, self-love and consistent activities and has very little to do with what’s happening around you.

What all that means in super simple terms is that you have to recognize what you are feeling (especially when they are difficult emotions), give those feelings an outlet by accepting them so you can pick-up and continue on doing the regular activities that will move towards your goals. Consistent activities are anything you know really makes a difference in your life. For example mine right now are exercise, writing content, time with friends, and staying in touch with my ideal prospective clients.

Being consistently confident in order to do those things that help you build and maintain a solid foundation and satisfying vocation takes a bit of focus but not more than you can handle and the results you will experience will be HUGE!

Here are nine ways you can build confidence doing what you love:

• Commitment to goals that are totally achievable and make you feel full inside
• Practice core activities (i.e. key business functions) over and over again until they become easy
• Outsourcing and delegating activities that you don’t like or won’t every be great at
• Getting crystal clear on the goals that serve/motivate you (not the ones you think you should have)
• Knowing when the right time to execute, when you feel well-resourced and ready for a challenge
• Having solid support of a mastermind, coach and/or colleagues
• Keeping your distance from naysayers or people who bring you down (even just temporarily)
• Developing self-awareness and softness around all of your emotions – they are all telling you something
• Getting feedback from clients and customers so you know you really are on the right track

This may seem like a blend of personal and professional techniques and you are right, it is! I am finding out more and more than running one without the other doesn’t actually get us to the place where we have the service and lifestyle based business that provides my two favourite f words – fulfillment and freedom.

Somehow I think those might be your goals as well. Am I wrong or right? Let me know what you think below.